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Joan14 February 2008
Mothers apart from their children have been waiting for this book. I'm sure that it will help them work through their loss and find happiness, regardless of whether they have contact with their children or not.
Lorraine13 March 2008
It’s been so sad but such a relief to read about the experiences of other mothers. I cried a lot but know that like you say, I need to hold on because you never know what might happen.
Anonymous18 March 2008
Your book has made me think again about my son’s step mother. She’s not a bad person and I know she could make things a lot more difficult for me if she wanted to. I’m trying ‘being friendly’ for all our sakes.
Kirsty1 May 2008
I read your book all the way through as soon as it arrived. I haven't seen my son for three years. I live in hope that my ex will soften and let me see him, I miss him so much. Thanks for writing the book. Just knowing that other non custodial moms are out there is comforting.
Beverly Morris, President of the National Association of Non Custodial Moms, US3 June 2008
I just wanted to let you know that your book has been a smash hit so far with the women in my organization! They LOVE it. I will continue to spread the word! Thank you, from the bottom of our hearts, for such a wonderful resource!!
Jane5 June 2008
I haven't read this book yet, but it sounds to be so, so long overdue. Many, many years ago my now adult children remained with their Father who was a good and caring man, for in the short term I felt that was for the best, mainly due to my guilt, and I knew the children were secure and loved with their Father and near my Mother, with me having good contact. In the long term it proved it certainly was not and I went to hell and back many times, fighting lies, untruths, access problems and a totally changed former husband with a new ladyfriend, who became his wife. Everything he and I agreed on amicably just disappeared. In spite of everything I never stopped telling my children that we both loved them. I was just an ordinary, intelligent, caring Mum who never ever gave up however difficult it all became and my God it did. The end result though is that I have a close, honest and loving relationship with our two wonderful thirty somethings.
It is so very difficult to move on, especially when there has been so very much pain, but at my daughter's wedding my former husband and my present husband of many years, were able to share the speech.
You will never forget the loss, injustices, untruths, sheer despair and the difficulties your children had to deal with, but you just have to attempt to move forward, however hard, for the sake of those you love the most, your children.
